What To Do When Your Whole World Is Falling Apart? 6 Support Ideas To Stop Anxiety and Give You Back Your Life
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
What if you lost your job, your house burned down, the creditors were closing in, and your marriage had become hellishly confrontational? No, that's not make believe. That's the real life of a real person. How can you maintain a positive outlook under such stress and strain?
Six ways to find joy in the face of overwhelming circumstances:
1. Start by finding things for which to be grateful. Gratitude is crucial to your happiness. If you are reading this article, you are alive and your brain is functioning fairly well. Start your gratitude list with living, breathing, and thinking. Add every blessing, however tiny, to your list. Every moment without pain is a blessing, every bite of food, every bird, tree, and butterfly. Give thanks for every "hello," and every smile.
2. Give thanks, also, for the life lessons. Make a list of what you have learned - yes, a written list. Be grateful for each lesson. Life lessons often come at great cost, but they are priceless jewels.
3. Do you have a support system - friends and family you can confide in? If so, be very grateful, and use that network now. Don't be embarrassed to seek emotional support from those you respect and love. If you don't feel you have a support network, find one in your church or community, and be grateful for those who are willing to be of service.
4. Care for your body and spirit with special attention and gentleness in this time of great challenge. Several times each day, take a moment to breathe deeply and center yourself. Consider beginning yoga or qigong. Eat healthy, keep hydrated. Get enough sleep. If you have trouble sleeping, pay special attention to the rest of the ideas in this article, they will all help you sleep better.
5. Begin each day with a silent walk: Get up a half hour earlier to make time for it. While a walk in a natural setting is ideal, a walk on city streets will do fine. Thoughts, angers, resentments, and fears will form in your mind as you walk. That "mind chatter" is always with us whenever we are not focused on a specific mental activity, and it gets much stronger when we are stressed. Neither resent the mind chatter, nor let it linger. Say "thank you" to each passing thought, anger, resentment, or fear - then release it and return to your silent walk.
6. Release your angers, resentments, and fears by feeding your troubles and fears to the cleansing fire: Light a candle or small fire. Write one trouble or fear on a piece of paper, and feed it to the fire, while releasing the issue to Spirit. Repeat until you can no longer think of another issue that burdens you.
May your days be bright with joy and hope.
today this helped me....caara
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When struggling to even get out of bed, I was grateful I had a bed. It was the best I could do today. Maybe more tomorrow.
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Gratitude is its own reward. Thank you all for sharing your experiences.
ReplyDeleteI shared one of your daily inspirations with my sister, who needs it as much as me, & she was very grateful as I am.
DeleteThank God for you. You are a blessing, Jonathan.
I would rather be remembered as a ray of sunshine than a dark cloud.
ReplyDeleteThank you, I am grateful for your words of wisdom
ReplyDeleteJonathan I have a lot angry anxiety i hate myself. I prayer every day I feel that God is mad at me and not listening. I cannot forgive my ex who left me for another woman. We got marry in January in chruch by February he want out. It's hard i am in finance in troube plus he forgot about kid. I am angry all time. I read alot of article about forgivenss I just want to pull my hair out
ReplyDeleteTHis is what I needed today! I become overwhelmed with problems, much of what I can not do anything about. I have to release what I can not control, and allow God to work through me and give me strength. Love your site, gives me the uplift and strength to face each day. You are an angel, that has crossed my path.
ReplyDeleteI love your site too. Everdyday I look forward to the peaceful thoughts that are in here. In a way, I know God is talking to me through your website so keep it up.
ReplyDeleteI am going through a huge amount of stress right now. Life gets overwhelming sometimes and I thank God for the strength that He gives me day in day out.
Thanks so much! your site inspired me to be a better person...to see life in a lighter perspective...which give me strength to face the day with a smile in my heart..
ReplyDeleteThank you. I believe an attitude of gratitude is the key to happiness. Every little thing...
ReplyDeleteyou may not always have the right job etc. but
look for the good in your life. Faith and fear
cannot occupy the same thought.
Thank you.I needed a reminder to look for things to be grateful for instead of focusing on stressful situations.
ReplyDeletethank you for opening up my mind into accepting things which we cannot change.Godspeed.
ReplyDeleteSomethings are easier said than done, but this is worth a try, so I will.
ReplyDeleteI pray everyday, and sometimes feel that my prayers aren't being answer. Really they are I just have to turn in more and listen. My husband lost his job, we are selling our home that we raised our children in, I think GOD has new plans for us, I don't see it just yet but I'm sure I will soon. Never give up FAITH
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ReplyDeletePraise the Lord for another day on this planet. I have read many of the issues other readers are facing and i realized i'm not alone with the challenges. Although my gut is in knotts i will find a way through these temporary set backs. My prayers go out to you all. I know what some of you are dealing with. As i too are facing the same finacial challenges and it's embarrissing & stressful but i/we have to keep going. Thank you
ReplyDeleteDear Jonathan, Thank you for this article. It have been very helpful to me reading your Daily articles.Time to time whenever I feel lost in my darkness I came here to read you articles. Sometimes it is very difficult to remember so many good thinks in my life,but very easy to remember only those bad things specially during this time of the year.As Christmas is arround the corner, I wish you and your love one very Marry Christmas and prosrerous New Year.My sincere love and gratitude .
ReplyDeletethank you so much that your site has inspired me a lot and i am going to feed my problems to the fire today itself
ReplyDeleteThank you for your inspirational messages. I will take your message to heart and give my problems to the Lord and give thanks to Him for He is Good.
ReplyDeleteMy boyfriend of over 4 1/2 years says he doesn't think that he loves me anymore. I never thought in a million years that this would ever happen. I am heartbroken. This came as such a surprise. I love him with all my heart. I am losing my best friend. I don't know where to go from here. I hope these six things will help me through this pain.
ReplyDeleteMy boyfriend whom I loved a lot broke up with me.Though I sleep with tears in my eyes every night,I wake up every morning feeling wonderful and motivated coz visiting ur site is the first thing I do in in the morning everyday.I can see incredible changes in my lifestyle and living.I now have a different perpective to life.Your site has played an important role in helping me survive and making me a better person.I thank God and u for teaching me life lessons which are invaluable.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your kind words.
ReplyDeleteMay the world be kind to you, and may your own thoughts be gentle upon yourself.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
I am 26yrs old, in love once and still in love, with one and only one man, he is the only person i have slept with and the only one i wish to sleep with the rest of my life. he is much older than me, in his fourties, but that is just a number, we fell in love three years ago, was together for almost two years and he left me because of our problems , but have you ever had the gut feeling that this person is your soulmate and that your love feels so good that letting it go would be a big mistake, well this is how i am feeling, he is always easy to give up and call it quits but i have always given 110% and more to him, i have always been there for him and he is sometimes there for me, i once put a tattoo of our initials on my hip, and he loved it , but i removed it wehen we had broken up, i have found my way back to him and will always love him but i wonder if he is good enough for me at times. I love him with all my heart, but get hurt sometimes, i hope someone would pray for us , as i will always fight to be with him....we are two guys in love....
ReplyDeleteto 26yrs old: If you are happy, great. If you are not happy, do something different. You don't have to follow anyone else's rules, but you do need to take responsibility for all aspects of your own life. Please be clear that you can never expect another person to change. If you don't like the way he is now, you have to move on.
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Mr Jonathan Lockwood Huie...you always lift my spirits no matter what. Thank for sharing.
ReplyDeleteThis blog is very helpful. Thanks for sharing your idea with us. I have learned the Six ways in finding joy in facing circumstances. Good advice!
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What I have learned in my entire life, is releasing my resentments to God. Forgiveness is the key for happiness and to be anxiety-free. I hope people will let God as their model in everyday life so that they will not suffer to this so called anxiety
ReplyDeleteAnxiety is a devil's trick to steal us from the love of God. If we are anxious, we are tired of thinking how God is great in our lives. We are bombarded with lots of issues everyday but if we exercise our FAITH that God will take full control of everything because He is the AUTHOR and the FINISHER of our FAITH.
ReplyDeleteAnxiety will cause you stress which can add distress over your life.
ReplyDeleteI've recently learned a few of life's lesson myself lately and it has cost me a lot...I now firmly believe that you should treat others and you would like to be treated and you never know what someone has gone through until you take a step in their shoes. Be good to each other people.
ReplyDeleteWow this site is very powerful it just makes a person while the situation doesnt allow him/her to smile. im realy encouraged, thank you very much for this site.
ReplyDeleteWhen everything falls apart, we have two simple choices. You can give up and fall with it or pick up the pieces and slowly put them back together.
ReplyDeleteIn times of hardships and trials you need to be strong. Find strength and courage within.
ReplyDeleteWhen my world falls apart, I seek help and advises from my friends. we should never give up. Keep our faith in God and everything will be doing fine.
ReplyDeleteAt first, giving thanks was the hardest thing I've ever done when I am into this ridiculous situation. Later on, I've realized that I have to be grateful 'coz when our problems pour, blessings will have its doors open. Isn't it great?
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ReplyDeleteThankyou so much for sharing your words of wisdom, pure thoughts and putting it across for the benefit of the world at large. I went through a breakup two months back and as a result failed my exams. I'm dissapointed and demotivated. And i'm also finding it very hard to let go. I chose to end the relationship as i felt i was being taken for granted, made use of, and don't think he ever really cared about me though he said he did. The memories are eating up my head. And i want him to realise that he did alot of things wrong. But i know that i can't force that. I want to tell him so much, how much he hurt me. I would be rly grateful to hear what u have to say. I want to be happy and focuson my studies as i want to succeed. I'm trying....
I lost my little brother to suicide in aug of 2010. I know I have not begun to travel the road of grief but still suffer much pain on some days. I have begun to use your emails as my daily reading in the morning before the kids get up. It helps me to focus and remember each day as a gift instead of a burden. Thank u for being that. My motivation to get up each day and to be true to my brothers memory in being a kinder, more compassionate, loving person as he was in life. Much love to u all in ur struggles. I pray u find peace and learn to love yourself as it all begins there.-
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I like your words!I have problems with self confidence.Reading your article gave me an impulse to think a little more positive.
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ReplyDeleteNumber 1 always helps me through hard times. Take a step back and look at the whole picture. You will begin to realize you have some good things in your life, it always helps me stay positive.
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ReplyDeleteMy hubby recently passed away, and I'm on an extended visit with one of our sons who lives in Europe. Your article reminded me of why I'm here. I already practice all but one of the suggestions. However, my daughter-in-law's mother gave me the gift of a beautiful tealight candle holder. So, I will begin "burning" and releasing my resentments and fears. Thank you so much for all the suggestions.
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